If you’re like me you have a mom, a mother-in-law, a mother to your kids, and a grandmother, maybe Mother’s Day can be a little confusing. Here are some suggestions for appreciating all the moms on their special day based on the 5 love languages.

1 // Serve Her – Do something for your mom. Moms spend years sacrificing their own lives while putting their kids first. They spend countless hours cooking for us, cleaning and caring for us. Take the opportunity to do something for her without the expectation of anything in return. Maybe that looks like cutting her grass, painting her bathroom or cooking her favorite meal (spaghetti works too, if that is the limit of your kitchen skills).

2 // Tell Her – She may not hear it often enough. Often times we get lost in the day to day of life and we forget the simplest things. Telling mom how and why she is appreciated can make a good Mother’s Day a great one. Some people thrive on verbal affirmations and a few kind words can have a big impact.

3 // Spend Time with Her – Make your mom a priority. Block off a few hours from the day and spend some one on one time with mom. If that doesn’t work, plan it with your siblings and hang out with mom. Take her to a coffee shop and call it a “mom-date.” Bring her to church or go to her church and enjoy lunch together afterward. Then maybe take a walk in the park with her.

4 // Give Her a Gift – It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. Some of the best gifts for moms are hand crafted or repurposed. Time and effort can cost more than money. If we aren’t crafty enough to build a Pinterest inspired herb garden from used pallets, then maybe a mom and me selfie stuffed inside a picture frame from a thrift store works.

5 // Hug Her Better Than Usual – Squeeze a little tighter and hold a little longer. Choosing not rush this particular moment on this particular day can say more than words. A big hug on a special day can communicate appreciation, love and respect and to some moms it will be the highlight of the day. It can inspire all kinds of other positive emotions and good feelings.

Mother’s Day can be a very tricky holiday for some people, because not everyone experiences a day full of joy and celebration. For some of us it can be a struggle filled with heartache and mixed emotions. However there is something we can offer all moms this year, which is intentional prayer. We can hold up the moms we know in prayer by asking God to continue to bless them. Moms have the hardest job in the world, so let’s ask Jesus to show them his love to them in an extra special way on their extra special day. Even the world’s most gracious, patient and caring moms can never have too much of God’s love.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, mother-in-laws, grandmas, step-moms, moms-to-be, single moms and especially to the moms who will be greeted by their kids on the other side of Heaven!